Have you ever created a goal and wondered if you should share your goal or keep it to yourself?
Maybe you have a big goal that scares the hell out of you but are timid to share it with others.
I know I’ve done this but the older I’ve got the more I realized the reason I hid so many goals was that they scared me.
Do you have any goals that are so big they terrify you?
I hope you do as setting goals are crucial for long-term success in any area of your life. Human beings are made to progress and achieve unbelievable accomplishments.
The secret to real happiness is progress.” — Tony Robbins
Sometimes though, big goals might sound so audacious to other people you feel that you need to keep them internal. I did this for so long myself. My goals were so far from my current reality that it seemed dumb to even share them with others (more on that soon).
But that’s the point with big goals, you can’t accomplish them as your current self. Big goals force you to become someone new that can make those dreams come to life.
Here’s why you need to share your goals with the world
Your Subconscious Mind
Why you should you externalize your goals? Your subconscious mind.
Your brain is astonishingly good at listening to your self-talk and thoughts. The subconscious mind is working 24/7, 365 days a year.
If it continually hears you downplaying your goals and desires or flat out lying to others it will begin to notice.
The brain wants to help you achieve great things and you get what you focus on. But, if you constantly affirm the opposite of your goal you will never achieve it.
For example, my goal is to become a PGA tour golfer which requires you to be ranked in the top 125 players in the world. I made this decision a year ago, as a 29-year old amateur golfer.
But this goal was so far from my current situation it felt ridiculous telling it to other people. I assumed people would say things like:
- “You’re too old to start professional golf.”
- “You aren’t even close to being that good.”
- “Why even try?”
- “Isn’t is expensive?”
So when people saw me playing in tournaments or posting about golf on social media they would ask, “Are you trying to go pro?” I would say reply with, “Yeah we’ll see where it goes” or “I’m not sure yet, just trying to get really good.”
This was me deflecting from my ultimate goal, thus affirming to my brain it wasn’t actually that important of a goal. If it was important I would be telling everyone I could to leverage new people, learn new skills, and advance my game.
Announce Your Goals
Start changing your behavior and let others know about your goals. Tell your friends, family, share on social media or add them to your website.
This will feel scary. You will most likely get told you can’t achieve your specific goal. Ignore these people, they are merely projecting their doubt and lack of self-belief onto you.
If no one laughs at your goals or thinks you are crazy then you aren’t setting them high enough.
If people are not laughing at your goals, your goals are too small.” — Robin Sharma
Once you create them it is SO important to share your goals with others. The more people you share with, the more likely you will meet someone who can help you achieve your goal faster.
Friends, family or strangers might have access to resources or connections that can help you in accomplishing that goal.
Success Leaves Clues
Do you have a goal that might sound outrageous to your current reality but has already been accomplished by someone else?
Maybe you want to write a best-selling book, travel to every country in the world or start an epic business you are passionate about. These are all awesome goals but have already been accomplished by others and that’s a good thing!
Because, as Tony Robbins said, “Success leaves clues.”
Follow in their footsteps, read their book, DM them on Twitter, read their website or listen to their interviews. With the internet, it’s almost impossible to not be able to learn more about people who have accomplished your current goals.
Never Doubt Yourself
Your brain wants to protect you from bad situations. Everyone wants to avoid failing, being embarrassed or other situations that might scare you.
But it’s important to never doubt yourself and fully commit to attaining whatever your goal might be.
With a will, unbelievable work ethic, and vision people have accomplished incredible feats.
- Kyle Maynard army crawling up Mt. Kilimanjaro as he was born no arms or legs
- Les Brown becoming a nationally known speaker, author, & coach after being labeled EMR (educable mentally retarded)
- Derrick Coleman becoming the first deaf NFL Player
When you hear about stories like these it should put your goal into perspective, especially if your goal has already been accomplished by others.
Affirm and Review Your Goals Constantly
After you practice SMART goal setting make sure you reviewing them on a consistent basis. Once you have a plan and make your goals public to others your brain will start helping you find ways to achieve them. But, if you don’t review your goals on a consistent basis your brain will feel as though it’s not that important.
Has this happened to you before? You get excited about a new goal only to forget about it a week later? I know I have.
Keep your goals top of mind by affirming them every day, preferably several times. The best time to review your goals are morning and night when your subconscious brain is most active.
As part of your morning routine spend 5-10 minutes doing one or several of these exercises:
Journal Your Goals
Write your biggest goals in a journal to remind your brain how important this is in your life. Ask yourself questions about how you can achieve these goals with new partnerships, ideas or how you can mix up your routine.
Visualize Your Goals
Use a vision board, slideshow or video with images that show your goal as complete. Jack Canfield calls this “Act as if.”
Act as if your goals are already complete.
Imagine yourself driving your new dream car, starting that charity, opening a business or hitting the best selling list. Jack used this method to bring his book, Chicken Soup for the Soul to become a best-seller despite being turned down by 136 publishers.
Affirm Your Goals
Write your goals down on 3×5 cards and repeat them over and over through the use of autosuggestion. As described by Napoleon Hill (Author of Think and Grow Rich), “Your ability to use the principle of autosuggestion will depend, very largely, upon your capacity to concentrate upon a given desire until that desire becomes a burning obsession.”
By constantly affirming and thinking about your goals your brain will take notice and help turn it into an obsession. Affirm your goals each morning and night. Spend 5 minutes focused on your goals and imagine them as being complete when you drift off to sleep.
Don’t End Up With Regret
Life is fickle, you never know if you will live to be 50 or 100 years old.
It’s better to have tried and failed than to live life wondering what would’ve happened if I had tried.” — Alfred Lord Tennyson
The number one regret people suffer from on their deathbed is the feeling of not living a life true to themselves.
Don’t end up being in that statistic. Instead, set a goal that motivates and inspires you. Announce it to the world once you have a plan to accomplish the goal. Work hard and have tunnel vision until you succeed.
You will be amazed at how much your life will change once you are fully aligned and working toward your life’s dream.
Never be afraid to share your goals with the world. If they laugh or think you’re crazy….then you’re on the right path to success!
Are you scared of your goals? Do you share your goals with friends and family?
Let me know in the comments!
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